How not to quarrel/fight with your spouse:

Is it possible not to have an argument/misunderstanding with your spouse? NO!!
Is it possible not to quarrel/fight with your spouse? YES!!
How?
Your spouse rants, screams, shouts at you over an issue for the next 100 years, so long as you don't talk back, it's not a quarrel/fight.
Hard to do, right? Especially when it's not your fault, not so? Ignore your ego and think of the peace your family will enjoy. You'll see that when your family is at peace, you'll also be at peace.
By the way, it's wise to apologize to your spouse after he/she has calmed down. Whatever you do, don't walk away during the shouting session. It never helps. It only postpones the anger.