What does your spouse know? - 2

Sometime ago, we talked about "what your spouse doesn't know, won't kill him/her". After reading it, my hubby said that there are two sides to it. Talking and Listening. He also said that I spoke of one side; Talking side.
He went on to elaborate. Many don't talk because their spouse don't listen. Some of us forget that marriage is dynamic not static. We've fixed our hearts on concrete on the things we want to hear. When we hear differently, we flare up and become problems instead of solutions. Rather than hear him/her out, we cast different layers of blame on them.
Some of us don't leave the past in the past. We drag them to the present and even save them for future use. Your spouse tells you about a past, you hold on to it for leverage (as a weapon) to use against him/her should the need arise (of course, our expectations can never be cut short).
Your spouse requests for the fulfillment of a "banal" desire, you throw the bible at him and then blame him for cheating on you when someone with a listening ear meets his desire.
He/She can't tell you anything because, they know what your reaction will be, violent. Therefore, outsiders, usually the opposite sex to your spouse, become more informed about happenings in your own home than you. A terrible experience for anybody.
It's bad enough that outsiders want to come in and destroy our homes, but most terrible when we hand them the most potent weapon they'll ever need: your spouse.
One of my hubby's favourite quote is, "and lead us not into temptation". Once I hear that quote, it can only mean that I am doing something that is pushing him away.
Stop reacting to what he/tells you. Start acting with God at the lead and see your marriage blossom.
Oh! Don't forget to have fun! Cheers!